Expectations and their effects !!!!

This won't be new to anyone. But it would just broaden your thoughts. EXPECTATIONS is a word which every experiences daily. Either you would expect something or someone close to you would expect something from you. Am sure everyone has had an experience of this. Many would have had a RUDE AWAKENING because of expectations. There's nothing in expecting certain things . But there certainly is a limit to it too. It becomes a very dark word if you expect a little bit too much. :) Dark as in it would not only hurt your feelings but also the people around you. Especially your loved ones.


Expectations rather become a burden on yourself. It weighs down you. Keeps haunting you. Reminds you of the bad deeds that happened unintentionally (though your mind would feel that it was done intentionally) . You would have asked your friend for a help. And you get a cold response saying that he/she cant do it right now. And if suppose your an emotional person all that you would feel is that the person doesn't care about you, blah blah blah, goes on the mind. What the mind refuses to accept is that the person's situation is such that he/she couldn't help at that unfortunate moment. We refuse to tell ourselves that its part and parcel of life. We refuse to be frank with our loved ones. We don't tell them that it actually hurts sometimes.



Even I had a wonderful experience of being under the burden of the dreadful expectations of mine. I had a minor trifle with a girl. Well she does decently stop talking to me. But all that i thought was to hurt her back ( sorry people, I have a rather rude mind inside me) . And what better way than to use her close friend to hurt her back. Well luckily for me, her close friend was my close friend too. :) I asked the common friend of ours not to talk to the girl. I expected her to obey me. Well the friend did try doing that but in vain. The friend then awakened me suddenly saying that the girl was also close to her. I came crashing down to the Earth. I realized the mistakes I was doing. Well I did get hurt. But it was unfortunately my mistake. I tried to use the common friend to hurt the girl which backfired and hurt me instead . And in a painful manner. I had become immune to pain long back. And hence I was able to bear it with a smile and later a tear in my eyes. College fights are common. Who doesn't fight ? Everyone does. And everyone patches up later on. Just that the patching up takes different times for each person. Even I patched up with the girl today. I expected her to hurt me back. But i was proven wrong. She actually spoke well and also told a little about her mistakes. We had a little conversation which i would remember forever. It showed me how many bad things I had been doing. I accepted my mistakes and told it wont happen again. She smiled and had a calm aura around her. It calmed the anger inside me. And made me feel bad for hurting her.


College days are something which would never come back again. And fights with your friends are sweet memories. Cherish them. EXPECT less. Because ultimately they would hurt you back badly. Nothing's permanent in life. Just move on and accept life as it is. Understand other people's views and lead a life of harmony. I have had the worst and best memories at college. Am sure many have had them too. And this post is to inform all that I have been a fool expecting a lot. I have realised certain things and am happy to know what my life is.